What kind of mess is this?

"Self-Help/Recovery/Psychotherapy Are you self-stressing and blaming others? Part of growing and maturing include learning what you can control and what you can?t. To make it more practical, we can not control what others do and say but we can control what we do, tolerate and say. This means that we are able to recognize and take responsibility for our actions as well as realizing that it is true ?when we change, others around us change.? There are many ways to create stress for yourself; some of the following are usually present when that happens: ? Constantly dwelling on others and not keeping the focus on yourself ? Allowing pride/shame to stop you from owning your errors/mistakes ? Failing to focus on the good ? Not rectifying your wrongs ? Failure to keep healthy boundaries and set limits To put it simply, Tameka Lancaster takes a realistic look at thought processes and actions that effect our ability to get along with others and live peaceably. She provides suggestions that if appropriately implemented with a good dose of balance and done in perfect timing, can make dealing with groups of people less stressful and more rewarding."